Motherhood is amazing, but it's not easy sometimes -- especially at first. The first year with Baby Hank was a mess. I was a newlywed, shooting my show, writing my book, traveling for press tours... and I just wanted to be home with my husband and my son.
Getting a little help
When you are a new mother, you think you are the only one that can care for your baby. You don't want anyone trying to fill your shoes. So it's difficult to come to the decision to reach out for some help.
I used to be what I'd call "anti-nanny." I didn't want to be one of those mothers who let a nanny raise her kids. After almost two years, I realized it was important for me (and our family) to get help from a nanny -- and it wasn't going to affect my relationship or bonding with the baby. While in Indiana, we hired Jeanie, an amazing nanny, who really helped to change my perspective on the whole idea of nannies.
So what do you look for and how do you find a trustworthy nanny?
- Set the parameters. Decide if you want live-in, live-out, part-time or full-time. Depending on your schedule, you might only need a nanny a few days a week or a few hours a day.
- Talk to your friends. Sure, you could just call a service but most moms have mom friends. If you can get a referral from a personal friend who has used a particular nanny, all the better.
- Ask at local preschools. Many caregivers only work at preschools part-time -- leaving themselves available to do private nanny work on the side. And if they work at a preschool, you know they have been background checked.
- Do lots of interviews. Sitting down with a person for an hour isn't going to tell you enough to trust her with your child. Do a preliminary interview and then have her come back and spend time with your little one while you watch.
- Go with your gut. You have to have a good rapport with your nanny and feel like you can totally trust her. After you do all your interviewing and background checking, sometimes you just have to make your decision on gut instinct.
Leave us a comment^ Do you have a nanny? How did you go about hiring her?