Planning a wedding is really hard work, but planning a life is even harder. Reality kicks in after saying "I do," and it's easy to slip into a routine. Fortunately, it doesn’t take much — beyond a little effort — to get your marriage back on track.
Make the effort
The prevalence of divorce is a testament to the challenges of marriage. For some, it's just easier to call it quits than to address their issues and make positive changes. Problems in a marriage can sneak up on you. The lure of a comfortable routine can slowly take the shine off a vibrant love affair. If your relationship is worth fighting for (and if it wasn’t, you probably wouldn't have walked down the aisle), there's no time like the present to make some changes.
Go it alone, if you must
Wouldn't it be great if you and your husband could recognize the problems in your marriage (even if they're subtle) and immediately jump into action together? While working on a marriage is a job best completed by two, you can make a huge impact on your own if you must. Chances are, once you commit to the success of your marriage and make some changes, your husband will be inspired and jump on board.
A tired marriage is a death sentence for a life-long relationship. Give yourself the best chance for happiness by implementing some of these practical tips:
- Strive to have your husband fall in love with you every day. Even though you've got a ring on your finger, you should still court him every day — not to win his love but to enhance your relationship.
- Fight the frump. You don't want him slacking when it comes to his appearance, so do your best to be presentable, take care of yourself and stay healthy.
- Create a loving environment in your home. You don't have to be Martha Stewart to create a home that's comfortable, welcoming and romantic. Take some time to reduce clutter, bust out the fancy plates every once in a while or place some flowers on your nightstands.
- Pay attention to your words. When you're with someone every day, it's easy to let your guard down, but words can definitely be weapons. Use them wisely and pay attention to the tone of your voice. Consider what your husband hears, not just what you want to say.