Even the most laid-back woman can be stunned to discover how quickly her emotional and mental states can be rocked to the core when she and her partner try to conceive. Gone are the days of fun, spontaneous sex. Now, you’re taking your temperature, counting the days of your cycle, monitoring signs of ovulation, popping fertility drugs or feeling like the “time to make the donuts” guy about your regimented babymaking efforts.
As you and your partner commence babymaking, it’s essential to keep your mind and body well-occupied by two key ingredients: Relaxation and distraction.
Remove yourself from the world of baby
Shelve the baby books. Yes, preparation for parenthood is important, but you’ll have nine months to do so once you do conceive. Use this time to immerse yourself in the things you love most and disengage from bump-land.
Don’t torture yourself by visiting baby site after baby site, reading medical sites about conception or commiserating with other women on message boards. Yes, it’s good to have a support system, but wallowing does you no good.
Vacation, all I ever wanted
Remove yourself from the scene of the babymaking. And, while it might be the opposite of what you usually do, schedule a distracting vacay or weekend away during the week your period is due (because you know that’s when you obsess the most).
Don’t knit, stitch
Knitting may seem like a distracting, relaxing hobby, but, once you pick up the rhythm, you’ve got too much time to let your mind wander. Cross-stitching or other crafts that require you to be precise during the process are a smarter distraction.
Become a bookworm
Read the entire Harry Potter series. Dig into the Sookie Stackhouse saga. Devour your old Judy Blume novels all over again. Mystery, intrigue, magic, vampires, Sci-Fi -- anything that isn’t a depressing, mom-centric novel -- should be on your reading list.
It’s impossible to ignore the situation you’re in and the objective you’re trying to achieve. So, find a therapist who will let you live in that world for one hour a week (or more, if you need it). You may find that you get tired of the act of obsessing when you’re forced to do it all at one time. Plus, you’ll walk away with more methods for distraction.